Am I a man?
Just because I have a penis and an Adam’s apple?
Am I a man just because society tells me so?
Or because “mister” precedes my name.
You would think by the doctor exclaiming “it’s a boy!”
I would automatically grow up to be a man.
In this case, I am a man.
But am I a man?
Is this the case?
Who is a man?
According to you?
“Sometimes I wake up feeling the weight
The pressure is too much to bear
What do you want from me?
You remind me every single day
A man must do this and that
A man cannot have emotions because it makes him weak
A man cannot have a female friend because …
He has a meat and whenever a meat meets meat …
Well I am tired of being your proconsul”
The blah-blah-blah of society sings like sirens
Tie me to a ship already so like Odysseus, I can withstand its sweet melody
What about the man I want to be?
A responsible man who respects women and doesn’t take them for granted
A respectable man who is responsible for his family and is not expected to follow the status quo of abandoning them and leaving his wife a single mother.
A reputable man who can have female friends and not have people look down on him because he is not fucking them
What is a man to you I ask?
One who makes you feel unwanted, disrespected and unappreciated?
One who cannot be controlled and deems you beneath him?
One who cares about his image more than himself?
A puppet, a Muppet or a Ken doll?
Isn’t the measure of a man one without strings?
One who cries moans laughs and fears?
A super protector
A man with a purpose
A man with a drive,
Who makes you feel like an A6.
A man is a beverage.
Not just a six pack
A man is a bottle of respect – hard and solid
His content – smooth and crisp
His taste – tried and true
An experience – unique to each
As he touches your soul and meanders down your spine,
A feeling of calm and refresh
That is how a true man should make you feel
A real man will make you feel special
Having 10 women on speed dial doesn’t make you a real man
It doesn’t make you masculine at all.
It makes you worn out and torn
Your sexuality – a question
A real man oozes power
The power of self-control
A real man has purpose
A real man buys his mother a car
And still makes sure it is washed on the weekends
A real man is a respecter
A real man is a leader not a follower
If you claim you are a real man, why then conform to what the boys are calling a man
Why not be your own man?
Why hide your aspirations?
Why be a crowd pleaser – an ass kisser?
Why hide your emotions?
Why say no homo when you really love a fellow man with all your heart.
After all aren’t we taught to “love your neighbor as yourself”
What do you fear? That your manliness will be questioned?
A man cares not what others think of him.
Ask Okwonkwo – ugly and feared!
At least he fought for what he believed in till the end.
A true man.
Can you say same with your changing lips?
No real man who changed the world ever cared for the thoughts of “cool kids”.
What business does a man have, pondering and bothering about kids anyway?
The cool kids after all, would someday work for his business and make him cool.
Hence he acts as a man
“I am a man”
That is what you should aspire for
So the question I ask today
Are you a man?